6 DON’Ts OF A FIRST DATE

Think of the first date like a job interview – because it really is a chance to get to know that person and for that person to get to know you and for you both to decide if you want to see each other again.

Here are some things to not do at your first date:

1. Don’t show up late

Showing up late shows the person you’re meeting that you don’t respect them or the date. Keeping to time shows you’re organized, responsible, and capable of keeping commitments. If you’re going to be late, reach out ahead of time to inform them.

2. Don’t lie on a first date

Some people lie about their age, job, income and so on. Telling lies on a first date can undercut your goal of actually getting to know the person. Being sincere, truthful, honest will make your date feel connected. You don’t have to lie to be a pity. But you can lie about something: your body count 😉 it’s no one’s business but yours.

3. Getting stuck to your phone 

If your phone is “bae”, your first date is also gonna be your last. Yeah, your bestie wants updates, but your lack of focus shows your date isn’t worth your time or attention. 

Neglecting your date is a no-no. You should listen with your eyes and your ears. Being a good listener is a quality that others find super attractive. It also shows your date that you’re highly interested in getting to know them on a deeper level.

4. Don’t talk about your past yet; unless your date asks

This is a common thing ladies do on their first date. We tend to talk about our past relationships with our exes. Nobody cares about your past relationships unless they ask. Even worse, never trash talk your ex on the first date. It makes you look bad even to someone you just met.

5. Don’t constantly complain 

Constant complaint on a first date is a major turn off that’ll have your date complaining about you to someone else. We all know it’s way more fun to be around someone who’s positive, happy and optimistic, than someone who’s negative, unhappy and pessimistic. This doesn’t take away your right to register your protest when you dislike something but the keyword here is constantly. 

6. Don’t look shabby to a date 

Since it’s your first official date with this guy; don’t be like “I need to look natural so he’ll see the real me”.  Darling,  we know you’re beautiful on the inside but it’s the outside that your date sees first. You should look your best, put on your favourite dress, smell nice, do your hair, wear makeup if that’s your thing and wear good shoes. If you’re looking for shoes to wear to your date, click here to see beautiful shoes you can wear to a date. 

Remember, every date can be your first date.  

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Love, 

Till next week

Bukky

10 ways to make yourself valuable in the workplace

First remember, that no one is indispensable. So don’t focus on being indispensable – if you do, you may burn out with fatigue and I assure you that your workplace will look for a replacement as soon as you’re not able to give value.

Focus on giving value and here are 10 ways: 

1. Help others without expecting much in return. Learn to take pleasure in watching others succeed.

2. Dedicate yourself to high standards. Bring your best to everything you do, and constantly raise the bar for yourself.

3. Do what you say you will do. Don’t make commitments you cannot keep. Do what you say you will do and sometimes do more.

4. Be of value to others. Be the one people reach out to — the one from whom people seek mentorship and coaching, information, and solutions. Reading in your spare time makes you more knowledge & positions you as a source of information.

5. Be open and adaptable. Learn to embrace change and help others see the benefits of moving with the tides.

6. Be honest. Whether it’s a mistake, a missed deadline, or a bad judgment call, communicate openly and work hard to find good solutions to any problems you may have caused. Never engage in blame-placing.

7. Work hard and go the extra mile. People who are indispensable usually expand their role by going beyond their scope. 

8. Learn more by being more. Do everything you can to make more of yourself. Volunteer for tasks outside your usual role; be eager to step up and take on more than your share. Do it with openness and effectiveness and a willing heart and mind, and it will make you invaluable.

9. Learn from every failure and every mistake. However bad the experience, learn to look at it and grow from it.

10.  Acknowledge and appreciate those around you. There’s no surer way to gain respect than to acknowledge and appreciate those around you.

Being valuable doesn’t come from ego but from what others think of you as you help them succeed.

Love,

Till next week

Lola

Lessons learnt from the Big Brother Naija Reality Show 2020

Here are a few lessons I learnt from the reality show this year. 

• Get intentions straight before going into any friendship to avoid situationships and entanglements. Like the case of Erica & Lilo 

• Do not give room for distractions, set your eyes on the goal at all times. Laycon & Nengi won my heart for this.

• Never look down on anyone in life.  Oh my, if anyone told us that TrickyTee, Neo and Laycon would make it this far, we would have hissed 

• Be humble, kind and generous to the people around you. Treat everyone the way you’d like to be treated. 

• Always respect people’s opinions and decisions. 

• Don’t let alcohol control you. You may make decisions that you regret later. Instead, control alcohol.

• Stop calling people names, body shaming and insulting people for things about themselves that they can’t change 

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 Love,

Till next week 

Bukky

7 STEPS TO OVERCOMING INSECURITY AND FOR REGAINING YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE

Do you sometimes feel as though you have all the potential in the world, but for one reason or another you keep holding yourself back?

Identify Your Insecurities

The first step is all about awareness. You need to identify the types of insecurities you typically struggle with. Take a pen and piece of paper and write down all the things you feel insecure about.

Practice Being Objective

Tell yourself this: “My insecurities are nothing more than interpretations I have made about myself, others, circumstances, or about what will or won’t happen. I am not my insecurities”

Reflect on Your Successes

Your next step is to take a moment to reflect on your successes and accomplishments. Have a think about all that you have done and successfully achieved over a lifetime. Consider the challenges you faced and how you overcame them. Make a list of these

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

One of the major obstacles you will face that will prevent you from overcoming your insecurities is the fact that you constantly keep comparing yourself to others. It’s time to stop it. Everybody has his/her own time, trust me it will definitely come. Comparing yourself to other people isn’t healthy. PLEASE STOP IT. DON’T DO IT.

Engage in Positive Self-Talk

One of the best ways to do this is to involve yourself in positive self-talk. Look in the mirror and repeat the following: I am a confident and capable person, I am beautiful and smart. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Make a Full Commitment

The final step is to make a full-blown commitment to overcoming your insecurities. This isn’t something you just do in your head. It’s rather something you adopt into your life. To overcome your insecurities, you need to break away from old habits and patterns of behaviour.

Practice Self-Acceptance

Practising self-acceptance means fully accepting yourself despite your flaws, imperfections, and limitations. Hello Nobody is perfect, and expecting to be perfect will just lead to disappointment. The root cause of your insecurities often stems from a cluster of memories you have held onto for many years. These memories influence your decisions and actions. And they are, of course, a result of past experience.

Courtesy Adam Sicinski, https://blog.iqmatrix.com/overcoming-insecurity

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Love, 

Till next week 

Bukky

Easy ways to rock denim jeans like a real babe

Here are simple ways you could rock your jeans without thinking of buying a new dress. You can slay these looks with what you have in your wardrobe.

1. You can wear Jeans with a white T.shirt

2. A dressy top can never go wrong

3. You could spicy it up with a sweatshirt

4. A slogan tee either black or white is not a bad idea

5. Denim over a denim still makes you look classy

6. You can try to add a bright colour blazer to pop your look

7. Have you ever tried a monotone?

8. You can add a kimono to look pretty simple and classy

9. When all else fails, just add heels!

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Love,

Till next week 

Bukky